I was waiting for you to pop up in here!
I can't really disagree with you - and we all want the things you want. Where we are isn't good enough when you consider the tech, the things that could be happening, and the things they could attempt. But this is the real world, sadly.
I begrudgingly accept that EA will probably only ever make one game and try to satisfy all gamers. For the rest of my life, it's going to be a balance of barely any realism, and FUT shit. (Currently, you boot FIFA and some anime stadium banners are advertised to you...)
So imagine my shock when the balance has moved slightly, SLIGHTLY, in our favour from a realism point-of-view. It barely makes sense!
I can only play PES 5 or FIFA 16 (my benchmarks) for so long before I go, actually, I need a change. Even FIFA 16 has got to the point where I often find myself thinking "so many 0-0s, I'm old, I want a tiny bit of a thrill even if it means sacrificing some realism".
Though obviously not to a silly degree (to me, 22 isn't a silly degree, but to you, I know it is).
The way I see it, I'm in the Sahara and desperate for water. (I play football games, and only football games, and I want to play a new one.) Every day, I've been offered a different glass of nails from Konami with a different date on the glass, and a glass of slugs from EA. This year, Konami's offering is just broken glass. EA's is murky water.
While you're waiting for distilled mountain water that's crisp and refreshing (because you're not desperate - you're not in the Sahara), I'll take the step in the right direction. I am surprised I can enjoy it, but it turns out, I can.
We all have absolute "musts" - mine is some variety in the AI. Give me that and it turns out I can notice, but not be bothered by, a lot of things.