I dont know how some people have such good online experiences. Mine is always laggy as hell and it is IMPOSSIBLE finding another manual player. I have spent up to 20 minutes and couldn't find anyone. If i do find someone they play on assisted and 9 out of 10 times they pick Real Madrid or Barsa.
By the way i have a 15mbps connection with 0.7mbps upload and 35ms ping, more than adequate for online gaming, fifa is smooth as silk for me, so i really dont know what the issue is....how can performance vary so much from person to person?
Maybe the PES- base in your region isn't that big (and perhaps even less manual players then). I'm in Sweden and find people all the time with "similar settings", I have noticed that Italians for some reason really like to have manual settings, good folks.