Thias sums up how I feel. I really, really try to love PES21/FIFA 23 but it's impossible to ignore the frustration these games cause you trying to accomplish simple things.
You go and play FIFA 16 and the balance is near perfect, you're not wrestling the damn controller or dealing with unpredictable player control and you can relax instead knowing you can trust the game to be reasonable as you, well you know... try to participate in the match.
I always say, If a game makes you mutter "oh for fuck sake" under your breath every five minutes because it fails or betrays you on the simplest of actions, then it's a bad game.